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Nurturing, healing, love - Kindness Can be Taught

I encourage you to listen to this compelling podcast. This is the work we're doing at Mitchell School but we need the help of the entire community. Also check out the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement 


Most kids value success and achievement more than caring for others, according to Harvard's Making Caring Common project. Who is to blame? We are. We talk to Scarlett Lewis of the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement; Jennifer Kotler Clarke, vice president of content research and evaluation at Sesame Workshop; and Thomas Lickona, author of How To Raise Kind Kids, for some ideas on how to do better, and why.
Here's what to remember:

  • Children are born to be kind — but also unkind.
  • Kindness requires courage.
  • To build kindness, practice mindfulness.
  • Teach real apologies, and frame forgiveness as a gift you give yourself.
  • Practice gratitude to "raise the capital" of everyday kindness.
  • Kindness is a habit; rituals, chores and service can all help.

 

What Is Executive Function? And How Does It Relate to Child Development?

This infographic from The Center on the Developing Child at Harvard University helps explain the work that we're all doing to help students strengthen their executive functioning skills.  Keep reading below the infographic to learn more about popular misconceptions.

As essential as they are, we aren’t born with the skills that enable us to control impulses, make plans, and stay focused. We are born with the potential to develop these capacities—or not—depending on our experiences during infancy, throughout childhood, and into adolescence. Our genes provide the blueprint, but the early environments in which children live leave a lasting signature on those genes.
This signature influences how or whether that genetic potential is expressed in the brain circuits that underlie the executive function capacities children will rely on throughout their lives. These skills develop through practice and are strengthened by the experiences through which they are applied and honed. Providing the support that children need to build these skills at home, in child care and preschool programs, and in other settings they experience regularly is one of society’s most important responsibilities.
Being able to focus, hold, and work with information in mind, filter distractions, and switch gears is like having an air traffic control system at a busy airport to manage the arrivals and departures of dozens of planes on multiple runways. In the brain, this air traffic control mechanism is called executive function.

More Information on Executive Function

Guide: A Guide to Executive Function
Learn more about the basics of building executive function skills, and learn strategies that can help build them.
Working Paper 11: Building the Brain’s “Air Traffic Control” System: How Early Experiences Shape the Development of Executive Function
This in-depth working paper explains executive function works, and gives recommendations for ways that caregivers and policymakers can effectively respond to the science.
This refers to a group of skills that helps us to focus on multiple streams of information at the same time, monitor errors, make decisions in light of available information, revise plans as necessary, and resist the urge to let frustration lead to hasty actions. Acquiring the early building blocks of these skills is one of the most important and challenging tasks of the early childhood years, and the opportunity to build further on these rudimentary capacities is critical to healthy development through middle childhood and adolescence. Just as we rely on our well-developed personal “air traffic control system” to make it through our complex days without stumbling, young children depend on their emerging executive function skills to help them as they learn to read and write, remember the steps in performing an arithmetic problem, take part in class discussions or group projects, and enter into and sustain play with other children. The increasingly competent executive functioning of childhood and adolescence enable children to plan and act in a way that makes them good students, classroom citizens, and friends.
Children who do not have opportunities to use and strengthen these skills, and, therefore, fail to become proficient—or children who lack the capacity for proficiency because of disabilities or, for that matter, adults who lose it due to brain injury or old age—have a very hard time managing the routine tasks of daily life. Studying, sustaining friendships, holding down a job, or managing a crisis pose even bigger challenges.

Correcting Popular Misconceptions of Science

The fact that young children have a difficult time with self-control, planning, ignoring distractions, and adjusting to new demands is hardly news to the adults who care for them. It is not widely recognized, however, that these capacities do not automatically develop with maturity over time. Furthermore, it is even less well known that the developing brain circuitry related to these kinds of skills follows an extended timetable that begins in early childhood and continues past adolescence and that it provides the common foundation on which early learning and social skills are built. Based on this new understanding, the following common misconceptions about the development of executive function skills can be laid to rest.
  • Contrary to popular belief, learning to control impulses, pay attention, and retain information actively in one’s memory does not happen automatically as children mature, and young children who have problems with these skills will not necessarily outgrow them.
    The evidence is clear that, by 12 months of age, a child’s experiences are helping to lay the foundation for the ongoing development of executive function skills. These early abilities to focus attention, control impulses, and hold information “on-line” in working memory appear to be easily disrupted by highly adverse early experiences or biological disruptions. Evidence also shows that early interventions aimed at improving these capacities before a child enters school can have beneficial impacts across a broad array of important outcomes.
  • Contrary to popular belief, young children who do not stay on task, lose control of their emotions, or are easily distracted are not “bad kids” who are being intentionally uncooperative and belligerent.
    Young children with compromised or delayed executive function skills can display very challenging behaviors for which they are often blamed. In most circumstances, however, it is the protracted development of the prefrontal cortex that is to “blame.” Efforts to help affected children develop better executive function skills and adjustments of the demands placed upon them to avoid overtaxing their capabilities are much more helpful than punishment for difficult behavior. Particularly when adverse experiences or environments elicit a toxic stress response, it can be very difficult for even the most competent children to enlist whatever executive function skills they have. In these circumstances, the provision of a safe and predictable environment offers the sense of security needed for successful behavior change to occur.
  • Contrary to the theory that guides some early education programs that focus solely on teaching letters and numbers, explicit efforts to foster executive functioning have positive influences on instilling early literacy and numeracy skills.
    Early evidence from randomized trials of interventions designed to foster the cluster of executive function skills (working memory, attention, inhibitory control, etc.) indicates benefits in early literacy and math skills compared with children who experience “regular” classroom activities. Indeed, there is also evidence that emerging executive function skills contribute to early reading and math achievement during the pre-kindergarten years and into kindergarten. This is not surprising insofar as the acquisition of traditional academic skills depends on a child’s capacity to follow and remember classroom rules, control emotions, focus attention, sit still, and learn on demand through listening and watching. Neuroscientists are also beginning to relate specific aspects of executive functioning, notably attentional skills, to specific steps involved in learning to read and to work with numbers. It is important to emphasize that this research is in its infancy, and much remains to be learned. Not only do we need to understand the effectiveness factors that account for the emerging impacts on school readiness from interventions designed to focus on executive function skills, but we also need to examine whether effective early education programs that focus directly on social, numeracy, and language skills also have positive impacts on executive functioning. Thus, the highly interrelated nature of these capacities makes it difficult to label any single intervention as focused explicitly (or not) on the critical domains of executive functioning.

Purple Up! Day and The Month of the Military Child






Wednesday, April 10, 2019
Purple Up! for military kids in Kittery, Maine
“Purple Up! for military kids” is a day to wear purple to show support and thank military children for their strength and sacrifices. Wearing purple is a visible way to show support and thank military youth for their strength and sacrifices. Purple indicates that all branches of the military are supported; Air Force blue, Army green, Navy blue, Marine red, and Coast Guard blue all thought to combine together as a single color, purple.
April is designated as the Month of the Military Child, underscoring the important role military children play in the armed forces community. Sponsored by the Department of Defense Military Community and Family Policy, the Month of the Military Child is a time to applaud military families and their children for the daily sacrifices they make and the challenges they overcome.
The Month of the Military Child is part of the legacy left by former Defense Secretary Caspar Weinberger. He established the Defense Department commemoration in 1986.

Personal Body Safety




The educators from SARSSM visited each of our classrooms recently to teach lessons on personal body safety. Please take a moment to review the read the information that was sent home and review those safety rules with your child. Having an open dialogue with your child is one of the greatest protective factors you can offer. In addition to the resources below, please refer to the Sexual Abuse Prevention Resources that can be found on the External Resources page of the Mitchell School Counseling Blog http://drickerich.blogspot.com/p/resources.html  (scroll down to that section)  It will walk you right through having the talk that every parent and caregiver needs to have.

Val and Ruth in a Kindergarten class with puppet friends JoJo and Hopper


With puppet friends Max and Ollie (grades 1-3)


Podcast from the Military Child Education Coaltion - Perspectives on Changing Schools

We extend a special welcome to our new military-connected families who recently moved to Kittery.
The Military Child Education Coalition (MCEC) produces a podcast series that I wanted to share with all of our Kittery families to help them better understand a different perspective.  Take a listen!

MCEC Podcast - Back to School Perspectives on Changing Schools

MCEC Podcast - Back to School Perspectives on Changing Schools

All Are Welcome

I'm looking forward to beginning the school year by reading All Are Welcome by Alexandra Penfold and Suzanne Kaufman as part of my first classroom lesson.


The picture book celebrates kindness, inclusivity and diversity in a joyous, child-centered format. The narrative and illustrations follow a group of children through a day in school where everyone is welcomed with open arms.  Page 15-16 : "We're part of a community. Our strength is our diversity. A shelter from adversity. All are welcome here."

Stuart Brown - Play is more than just fun

Stuart Brown is the founder of the National Institute for Play.  "Play is the gateway to vitality. By its nature it is uniquely and intrinsically rewarding. It generates optimism, seeks out novelty, makes perseverance fun, leads to mastery, gives the immune system a bounce, fosters empathy and promotes a sense of belonging and community." (National Institute of Play - The Opportunities)

This TED talk from Stuart Brown is a gem worth a listen. 

Save the date! The Kittery Youth Committee presents the film Reject: The Science of Belonging on April 30th

SAVE the date!  Monday, April 30, 6 PM - 8 PM at the Kittery Community Center


FREE event hosted by Kittery Youth Committee (KYC). Childcare provide ages 5+. This film is not meant for young children.



REJECT (Film trailer http://rejectfilm.com/official-trailer/) examines the impact of social rejection. Weaving together expert findings from neuroscientists, social psychologists, early childhood educators, law enforcement experts and personal testimony, the film sheds new light on the universal human experience of rejection. From racial bias to parental neglect to school bullying, REJECT reveals the multidimensional link between interpersonal rejection and the neurological experience of physical pain. In so doing, it uncovers a path towards violence prevention and emotional recovery.

The Great Kindness Challenge 2018




Three things in human life are important: the first is to be kind; the 
second is to be kind; and the third is to be kind.

Henry James

The Mitchell School is participating in The Great Kindness Challenge again this year.  It is one school week (January 22-28) devoted to performing as many acts of kindness as possible. Developing the habit of kindness has the power to increase tolerance, unity and respect for all.  This is the fifth year that our school has proudly participated in this proactive, positive, nation-wide bully prevention program.

You will see one of the checklists below in your child's red folder on January 22.  We have many fun activities planned for the week.  Keep scrolling; links to videos, songs, a booklist, and more information about The Great Kindness Challenge are shared below. Thank you for supporting this initiative in our community. 

We welcome any and all participation from parents, caregivers, and community members.





VIDEOS  
                    (YouTube videos -- be ready to close out of the advertising pop-ups)

Kind-Hearted Hand - The Great Kindness Challenge Theme Song  

Kind-hearted Hand song WITH lyrics 

Kindness Matters! Easy Ways YOU Can Make Your School a Kinder Place!  (This is a good way to introduce the Great Kindness Challenge to your students)  
Advertisement from an insurance agency in Thailand --  Thai Good Stories by Linaloved 
Smile!  


Children's Books

Somebody Loves You, Mr. Hatch - Eileen Spinelli
John’s Whistle  - Lili Ferreiros and Sonja Wimmer
The Lion and the Mouse - Bernadette Watts
Mufaro’s Beautiful Daughters - John Steptoe
Because Amelia Smiled - David Ezra Stein
Each Kindness - Jacqueline Woodson
The Invisible Boy - Trudy Ludwig
The Kindness Quilt - Nancy Elizabeth Wallace
Have You Filled a Bucket Today - Carol McCLoud
The Giving Tree - Shel Silverstein
The Golden Rule  - Ilene Cooper



More about The Great Kindness Challenge from their website:

Because Kindness Matters

The Great Kindness Challenge is proudly presented by Kids for Peace, a global 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization. Kids for Peace was co-founded in 2006 by Danielle Gram, a high school honors student and Jill McManigal, a mother and former elementary school teacher. What started organically as a neighborhood group of kids wanting to make our world a better place, has grown into an interconnected network of young peacebuilders worldwide.

In 2011, the elementary school that Jill’s children attended asked Kids for Peace to help create a more positive, unified and respectful school environment. As a result, The Great Kindness Challenge was designed and piloted with three Carlsbad, California schools. Because of our innovative approach and wildly successful results, word spread, and a kindness movement was born!

At the heart of The Great Kindness Challenge is the simple belief that kindness is strength. We also believe that as an action is repeated, a habit is formed. With the Great Kindness Challenge checklist in hand, students have the opportunity to repeat kind act after kind act. As kindness becomes a habit, peace becomes possible.

The Great Kindness Challenge is a grassroots movement that is making our schools, communities, and world a kinder and more compassionate place for all. Working together, we joyfully prove that KINDNESS MATTERS!

Team Kindness

Our team is joyful, tenacious, committed and kind. In true grassroots fashion, our big-hearted team consists of mostly volunteers who work passionately around Jill’s dining room table. We have one simple goal: to create a culture of kindness for all.

Transitioning from summer to school - tips to help your child succeed

Welcome to the 2015 -2016 School Year at Mitchell School!



We are excited to welcome our new students and their parents

to Mitchell School and we welcome back all returning students.



The start of Kindergarten is a big change for children and parents. And for those families returning, it's an opportunity to mark a the transition from summer to school. Transitions are exciting opportunities for children to learn and grow. Of course, such milestones in children's lives can cause anxiety, too! Strengthening the ties between school and home will help create smooth transitions for adults and children both.


Tips to help prepare your child for the first day of school:
❦ Be enthusiastic about the upcoming change. If you are excited and confident, your child will be too.
❦ Prepare yourself. Take note of how your child reacts to separation. Highlight the best parts of her Mitchell School experience thus far and talk about what your child is most excited about (riding the bus, certain elements of the classroom, the playground, lunch, a friendship, a special classroom project, etc.)

Cultivating respect - creating a safe school climate for all

Some may think primary school students are too young to worry about addressing issues surrounding gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and questioning (LGBTQ) students. Not so, experts say. It’s never too early to begin teaching children about respecting differences. When our students and their parents have questions related to LGBTQ issues, our goal is to foster healthy dialog, critical thinking and inclusiveness. With that in mind, our conversations include all students and perspectives to create a safe and supportive school climate.

Like many New England states, Maine has taken a strong stance in favor of LGBTQ rights.  Since 2005, state law prohibits discrimination based on gender identity.  Last year Maine’s High Court ruled that denying a transgender girl the use of the girls’ restroom at her school violated her rights under the state’s

Our 3rd Annual Great Kindness Challenge



The Great Kindness Challenge is one school week devoted to performing as many acts of kindness as possible, choosing from a checklist of 50 suggestions. Help to create a culture of kindness here in Kittery so that it becomes a year of kindness.  We have some fun activities planned and our teachers are as creative as ever.  We welcome everyone to join us in this proactive, positive bully-prevention initiative.

Video Color Your World with Kindness  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rwelE8yyY0U

Kind-Hearted Hand - The Great Kindness Challenge Theme Song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8RpTN_DfhU


Kindness Matters! Easy Ways YOU Can Make Your School a Kinder Place! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6GJicr8rNJw





Great article from the NY Times on Social-Emotional Learning

Link to the NY Times article  Printed below



Playing Nicely With Others: Why Schools Teach Social Emotional Learning




Photo
CreditIllustration by Jessica Lahey

If your children’s school seems to suddenly be devoting its time and resources to something called SEL, it may be leaving you wondering what happened to good old reading, writing and arithmetic (or even that new darling, coding). You’re not alone. SEL stands for social emotional learning, and it’s a hot topic at the moment among educators with good reason. 
While you may not have heard the acronym SEL before, you have probably seen social emotional learning sprinkled throughout schools’ mission